• kbin_space_program@kbin.run
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    5 months ago

    On the other hand, it’s much easier to miss red flags via a dating app than in person.

    Also, Dating Via Algorithms(aka via apps) is hell. Women get bombarded with bad apples and men have to fight through bots and (s)camgirls, and then hope the algorithm on the site even shows you people you want to date.

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      5 months ago

      Dunno Hinge works fine for me as a guy. Not many bots and no camgirls. But compared to my gf I have to like more while she can just sit back wait for likes to come in. It’s true tho that the girls liking me match better with what I’m looking for compared to the guys my gf receives. It’s not like super random or proportionally less attractive girls either.

      What I really enjoy about it (so far) is that intentions are clear beforehand. I don’t have to overthink a hookup convo in a bar with some random person who will most likely reject me anyway.

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        This. I realize as a woman it’s easier for us when it comes to dating apps to just receive likes but the sheer volume of desperate people who will swipe right on literally every single woman can be annoying as they haven’t read your profile.

        But they can be filtered out rather easily with a good system unlike people approaching IRL. Harmlessly ignored or ghosted rather than painfully turned down in a scene in some sort of public place.

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          5 months ago

          Yeah I feel you. It’s defo some work to go through it haha. My gf unpauses her hinge for a minute and gets like 7 likes lol.

          Facts. I feel like dating apps work great for people who struggle to approach strangers. The people I met with also struggled with this, but are actually super social individuals.

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            5 months ago

            Same, nowadays I think approaching IRL is just too dangerous both because of neurotic people who will suspect ill intent automatically and people with said ill intent.

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      Bad apples exist irl too, but on apps I can filter them out easily. Back when I used dating apps was in the pre-swipe era with OKC and it was very evident from the profile what exactly we matched on and why and what we didn’t match on.