• eestileib@sh.itjust.works
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    1 year ago

    Ok. I am the last thing from a scenester so I’m sure you know better than me.

    I do think it’s kind of a bummer that I can’t get that in low-stakes pet play b/c everybody has built it up so much.

    • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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      1 year ago

      Ok yeah that’s weird. I’ve used them in scene without commitment and in my marriage as very much commitment. You just communicate about it. And ironically I’d never suspect a pet player is using it as a sign of a lifestyle dynamic because that’s a very different context. It’s us lifestyle power exchange folks and non-pup leatherfolks that use them that way.