the_itsb (she/her)

41f late-dx AuDHD

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Cake day: July 11th, 2023

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  • feel less anxiety and am less prone to anger

    This is a huge one for me, too. I managed my transition to a new provider poorly and am consequently out of medication, and I have so much less tolerance for other people and their bullshit. It took conscious effort to not be cunty with a store employee the other day when he had the temerity to interrupt my search of a shelf for a thing to offer to help with my search. 😂 It wasn’t until I was relaying the story to my husband that I went from “can you fucking believe that asshole” to “can you fucking believe what an asshole I am omfg.” 🤦

    I very nearly replied to his second, “What are you looking for?” with “None of your fucking business!!” 😂🤦 jfc. I just ignored him instead, which I’m sure was also offensive.

    I just can’t go out into public after mid-morning until I get more medication, I am a menace. 😂


  • In the US, in the weeks leading up to the new school year starting late August/early September, many retailers will offer discounts on school supplies - paper, pencils and pens, backpacks, etc - to attract customers. Many clothing retailers market it to students as a great time for a wardrobe refresh or to reinvent your look entirely and offer discounts. Same deal with electronics, especially since higher math courses tend to have required calculators. Some states - including Ohio, where I live - offer a sales tax holiday on a weekend during this season to help with the expense involved.

    It’s wicked expensive with just one kid, I can’t imagine having several.


  • the_itsb (she/her)@midwest.socialtoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlWhat's your spirit animal?
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    the_itsb = the Ill-Tempered Sea Bass, and though it’s a batfish and not a sea bass, I’ve always thought this guy conveys the ill-tempered part beautifully.

    Who I actually am as a person is a little more like some kind of crab. There’s the strawberry crab, who is “small, brightly-colored … known to be quite toxic,” which sounds just like me without medication. 😂 And then there’s the black-eyed hermit crab, who “often inhabits shells left by massive moon snails … often covered with colorful pink anemone-like hydroids, making this critter even cuter.”


  • I think the physical and psychological distress that tend to result from Vogon poetry would be problematic for the celebrational mood I’m hoping to achieve, but there will definitely be gorgeous sandwiches crafted by the loving hands of an artisan of intergalactic renown.

    I’ve never seen a recipe for Pan-Galactic Gargle Blasters that appealed to me, but I’m hoping to get that sorted as well.









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    Those ears! 😍 I wonder what it’s like to be able to hear mouse farts and bird burps?

    There’s something tricksy about their faces, like maybe they’re the kinda guys who might try to hide extra rows of razor-sharp teeth behind the cute front ones. Big chaotic neutral energy!



  • Oh yeah, making the list is going to be a pain in the ass! For mine, I started a little note for it in my phone, and every time I came across an ADHD thing while internetting that made me think “omg me too!” I would put it on the list. I also sorta “cheated” to get started by looking at lists of symptoms and problems and coping strategies and copying anything that was relevant to me. I think it helped that I didn’t set out to get it all down at once, I just added to it here and there as I thought of things while doing other things, and it grew.

    Here’s some of mine, maybe this can help you get the ball rolling?

    Symptoms in Adulthood:

    • Head full of constant noise - songs, chatter, repeated phrases - “bees in head” - EEAAO perfect illustration w IRS meeting scene
    • Bumping into things, bruises, falling - I used to be a dancer, I have great balance and pretty good coordination, but I’m a real klutz when I’m not focused on movement, get injured often, and am literally constantly sporting at least a couple bruises from just existing in my house - what will happen when I’m elderly and fragile???
    • talk too much/overshare, interrupting
    • struggle to read anything not totally engrossing, but then dead to the world when engrossed
    • Financial instability, overdrafts, credit issues, etc - much better now with autopay etc, but I still occasionally fuck up and pay the “ADHD Tax” at least a couple times a year.
    • Auditory processing issues, difficulty with spoken multi-step instructions, have to write things down
    • Often blank on direct questions - what do you like, what have you been doing, etc
    • Lose track of time
    • Can only do one or two things a day, have to devote entire day to social function or anything very taxing
    • Have to set reminders and add things to list immediately or they will be forgotten
    • Rejection sensitivity
    • Completely derailed by strong emotions
    • struggle to develop habits (but does make it easier to drop bad ones like smoking, binge drinking)

    Attempts to help self:

    • Lists and reminders - I even have lists of lists and reminders of reminders, it is absurd
    • Routines, sleep hygiene
    • Breaking big tasks into small
    • DBT workbook to help with emotional issues
    • Meditation - I can’t reliably do the sitting still kind, but the walking/doing kind is very helpful
    • Exercise (elliptical, pilates, weights, yoga)
    • Coffee, energy drinks
    • Podcasts and music to try to power through boring tasks


  • They’re called a kissing bug because they tend to target the lips and face, as they’re active at night and that’s typically what’s exposed when people are sleeping.

    This is the second-worst news you could have given me on this subject, the first-worst being “and they’re in your pillows right now.”

    I hoped to get some “fuck yeah, let’s never learn about those bastards TOGETHER!” in response but feared I would get informative replies like yours. I pine for my ignorance.