Yeah and sometimes it just rubs off on each other, like I was never the gardening guy but her enthusiasm about it was infectious and now I find myself getting excited about how many tomatoes a single plant can grow or what beautiful colors the tiny corn poppies can produce.
And the other way around - a friend gave me a ‘Quark’ shirt for my birthday and my girlfriend said ‘ugh ferengies are so ugly, couldn’t he have given you a Spock shirt, I like him more’ and I was soooo proud of her.
You just learn to enjoy their excitement about their boring shit until you start to share the excitement and you start to enjoy the thing too.
Don’t think of it as a paradox - tolerance is a social contract, once you break the terms you’re no longer protected by that contract because accepting that would nullify the contract for all of us.