• LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    okay but real talk, why is it my responsibility to feed my significant other? Are we not both humans with our own individual food preferences? Why can we not feed ourselves? neither of us are children. We are both adults.

    • Voroxpete@sh.itjust.works
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      9 months ago

      Real talk, cooking for two is much more efficient than cooking for one.

      The part where that work is assumed to be the woman’s job? That’s patriarchal misogynistic bullshit, obviously.

      In my case, I do most of the cooking because I enjoy it and I’m good at it, whereas my wife finds the kitchen intensely stressful, and would much rather be outside making things blow up. But she makes a point to either cook a meal or order in for two nights of every week so that it’s not always my job.

      Like basically everything in relationships, the solution is “Fuck societal assumptions, come to an agreement with your partner that you both feel happy with.”

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        9 months ago

        I like your last paragraph. I’m a woman and I don’t even cook for myself. EVER. Similar to your wife, the mere thought of cooking stresses me out and makes me angry. I’ll be damned if anyone else ever expects me to cook for them 😆

        • Please_Do_Not@lemm.ee
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          9 months ago

          I mean you asked the question like you didn’t understand that? Instead you make it seem like you think this is truly meant to reflect gendered responsibilities and expectations in a relationship. That is pretty goofy when the whole thing is clearly a setup for a punchline calling mac n cheese “wet food” for humans.