Frozen embryos are “children,” according to Alabama’s Supreme Court::IVF often produces more embryos than are needed or used.

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    9 months ago

    Imagine all the resources and suffering you could have avoided if you had adopted a child

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      9 months ago

      It takes a massive massive amount of time energy and resources, financial and others, to adopt. Its awful.

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      9 months ago

      Some places don’t allow same sex couples to adopt. Laws around adoption might be weaker, too.

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      Based on your post history, you’ll just delete your comment within a few hours anyway, but have you considered that if adoption was such a perfect solution then more people would adopt?

      Instead of simply imagining simple solutions to complex problems, maybe try having a bit of empathy and see where that takes you?

      Good luck.

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        9 months ago

        I see, so while the adoption system has issues we should just leave tens of thousands of kids to suffer while selfishly having more. Sounds very humane

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          It feels like you’re suggesting that adoption is a panacea, but for a majority of couples, it simply isn’t. I agree it could be considered selfish, but selfishness is a virtue in our society so I am asserting that it should be expected and accounted for, rather than simply waving your hand at its inherent issues and pretending they’ll go away.

          Adoption has been proposed and has failed as a satisfactory solution to this problem for millenia, what has changed about it to make it relevant now?

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              I haven’t looked into it personally, but from every account I’ve heard, it sounds like a horror show. Admittedly, there’s probably some confirmation bias in there, but I’m also thinking about it from an anthropological perspective.

              If adopting a child were equivalent to giving birth to your own child, why would people still go through the torture that is pregnancy? We know that there have been orphanages for centuries, so this seems to be a long running thread in the history of humanity.

              From a behavioral economics standpoint, it seems presumptuous to suggest that more couples ought to change their preference from what they’re predisposed to choose naturally, especially without an explanation for why they are likely to have this preference to begin with.

              Once you start speculating on the reasons why people prefer adoption only as a fallback option, you’ll likely find that the answer is complicated and personal to every couple, but in aggregate the average couple isn’t thinking about adoption as a plan A.

              Even when it comes to same sex couples - they’re working on technology to be able to combine dna from two same sex parents and create an embryo that is truly a child of two people of the same sex.

              Not that there’s anything wrong with that, I’m just thinking of examples where adoption seems to run counter to people’s revealed preferences.

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                It’s extraordinarily shitty to suggest that children that are adopted are not equal to those related by blood. Ever since the beginning of time people and animals have cared for children that were not their own biologically. Look at any species of animal. Mama cats will take care of as many random kittens as fall into their lap. Birds will raise chicks from any number of different species of eggs. As long as orphanages have existed, so have people that have adopted children from them. There is no biological imperative that suggests Children by blood are better than anyone else. In fact, the entire history of the world speaks to the exact opposite.

                People go through pregnancy because of cultural expectations And the ideals that they’re raised with. In fact, as time goes on, and women become more independent birth rates have fallen drastically, indicating that there isn’t a biological imperative to get pregnant, and to have children.

                The fact that orphanages even exist at all, can be a testament to people having children who shouldn’t. we don’t need more of those

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                  I’m not suggesting that - I agree with you, once a couple decides to adopt, their adopted children are just as loved as any others. I’m simply pointing out that people will go to great lengths not to adopt in the first place.

                  If people are having children who shouldn’t, would you agree that there is a moral imperative to prevent them from having children in the first place?