You probably don’t deserve the downvotes for having spoken your mind, but you might want to be careful of what you wish for. My heart goes out to you for having to face the realities of your own life and conditions, but there is no silver bullet and no utopia to be had until some people are drawn to screw over others for whatever diminishing advantage they derive from their actions, while offloading (“externalizing”) the actual costs onto others and onto society at large.

I can see why you’d consider an all-powerful surveillance state as an option in your specific situation – but as a thought experiment on the same lines, would you consider moving to say China – where your wishes of total surveillance and absolute power are being implemented to the fullest extent possible – also, arguably to “preserve its society”? It has all the pulls of big city life…

Sadly, China itself is very likely on the path of forced breeding of its subjects to stabilize its population statistics (not its social fabric), from all the power and control they possess over their people, and from all the surveillance big data and analysis they’ve built for themselves. Would you want to be that unfortunate, unwilling parent, or even more unfortunate, that unwanted child, where your every step, every thought is logged and analyzed by machines, leading to actions and consequences pre-determined by a handful of all-powerful rulers?

This is probably the most extreme example there is, but all I’m saying is be careful of what you wish for…