There are two types of loans: subsidized and subsidized. The subsidized loans do not accrue any interest, as the fed pays that for you. Unsubsidized loans do accrue interest; typically a lower rate than regular loans (mine were 6%). Student loans cannot be discharged through bankruptcy.

It should also be said that just because I already paid my student loans off doesn’t mean I don’t want other people to be in debt. Student loan forgiveness needs to be up there with the livable wage.

Did I? Completely unintentional. I meant for it to be blatant and obvious. 😉

That’s probably true too.

Amen. Now, where’s that Wine?

I need to go to Denny’s more. 😅

I’m wide awake and already experiencing nightmares. I also haven’t eaten anything today, and now I’m afraid to for fear of vomiting.

Well done! You’ve won the Internet today. I hope you’re happy.

One of the benefits of adhd is that my memory sucks. It also helps that third grade was 40-something years ago. I have one or two memories of third grade, and one of them is of the space shuttle challenger exploding. RIP.

FWIW, I’m referring to the local DNS (domain name system) resolver; the mechanism that resolves local domain names into IP addresses so that computers can talk to each other over the LAN.

Here is a good primer on the configuration files and their possible locations: https://www.freedesktop.org/software/systemd/man/latest/resolved.conf.html

Edit: be careful because this is your domain name lookup you’re messing with. 😊

Good point. I did not consider this. Thank you.

You make a terrifyingly interesting point. I did not consider this. Thank you.

I have a smart tv, washer, and dryer. None of them are connected to a network. They can’t do anything “smart” without a network. You don’t need to take apart or disconnect anything. In fact, doing so could cause problems if you nick the wrong wire or component.

Just leave it be and you should be fine.

Brother, I feel a lot of what you wrote. You’re not alone, ok? It’s hard to claw your way out of these deep holes you did. Yourself in; but not impossible. It’s not a matter of desire or effort either. No one wants to live this way.

Now, I challenge you to do three things (assuming you do t already; I don’t know because you didn’t mention it):

First

Instead of listing the things you fuck up, or suck at, or hate yourself over, I want you to instead list five things you like about yourself.

It’s going to be hard. You’re going to draw blanks. You’re also going to want to add this to your ever-growing of things you hate about yourself (don’t).

But give it time and practice. If you can’t think of five, think of one and then move on with your day. Keep trying each day until you can reach five things, and then increase it to ten.

If you miss a day here or there, that’s okay. This is for you and you only. I’ll get you started though:

1. You have the desire to be better
2. You are intelligent enough to write cohesively
3. You were attractive, funny, and, smart enough to convince your wife to marry you and love you (doesn’t matter anything else)
4. You are obviously evolved enough to know dogs are the superior species, because you own more than one
5. You have the courage to get out there every day, despite everything, and try again at life

I don’t know you from Adam and I was able to come up with five positive things about you. So I know you’ll do just fine with finding more affirmations.

Second

Seek medical help (no, really, hear me out). Find a Doctor to discuss your adhd/add. Also look into a therapist to talk to about this. It’s amazing how much it can help. And even if you feel like you can’t afford, then look for low-cost solutions.

I’ll keep this advice to the minimum because I’m not a doctor and you should never get medical advice from the internet.

Third

Talk to your wife about all of this. Yes, it’s a lot to put in someone, but she loves you and doesn’t want you to through this alone. Let her help you.

Fourth

I lied. I thought of a fourth thing. Take a nap. When you get so worked up like you described, it may just be a sign that you’re physically and mentally tired. A nap can help you feel better. If you can’t take a nap, maybe take a hot shower. Stand under the water and let it cover you.

Look, take everything I said above with a grain of salt. Like I mentioned, I don’t know you, so my advice may be way off base. But, some things are harmless to try (like affirmations or napping/showering).

Anyway, from one lost soul to another, I hope you find your way through. I know I’ll be rooting for you.

Eh. It’s part of the game. I believe it’s always been this way.

Talking to core developers can yield a lot of information about a project; both about whatever decision-making body has decided, and under-the-radar things they’d like to see. Plus it never hurts to ingratiate yourself to the folks doing the heavy lifting.

As for contributing, you can do more than just coding. And who knows, it could eventually lead to something else you might like (e.g., qa, documentation, evangelism, etc).

It’s one thing to be disappointed by a business decision made by a company that you do not agree with, but to be offended by it seems a little much; especially when said decisions aren’t offensive to begin with (i.e., there is no political/religious/sexual/social ties).

I see two possible solutions (there may be more):

1. Open a respectful discussion with one or more of the core developers to see if they can shed some light on the decisions made.
2. Become a contributor to the project and make pull requests for the changes you want to see implemented. Of course, talk to the developers first so you don’t waste your time on a contribution they don’t want.

Keep in mind that neither of those options guarantee that you’ll get what you want. Developers do not owe users for decisions they (or higher ups) make on a project. Also, they are not required to accept outside contributions if it goes against their roadmap.

Yes. When the pitcher and catcher want to intentionally walk a batter, the catcher will extend their glove hand all the way to their side, which is outside of the batter’s reach, and the pitcher will throw it to the catcher’s glove.

Thank you!

For people who do not get the Baseball metaphor, let me try to explain:

In Baseball there is a field (called a diamond) that has four bases (1st base, 2nd base, 3rd base, and Home). A hitter will start out at Home base, and attempt to hit a ball thrown by a pitcher. After they hit the ball, they will run to first base. If the ball has not been returned to the infield yet (the area where the bases, pitcher, and catcher are), the batter can attempt to run to 2nd base, 3rd base, or even home. Now sometimes a pitcher may choose to “walk” a player by throwing 4 balls; pitchers may do this on purpose if they feel the batter could hit a home run). Once a player has crossed all four bases, their team gets a point.

A lot of the time, players will either be walked or they will hit a single (get to first base). At that point, other players will do the same, moving all players on base to their next base.

This analogy represents a player who got moved to third base, not by their own virtue but by the virtue of others, but the player on third pretends he got to third all on his own, without help.

(NB. This is not a complete “how-to” on baseball, so I skipped over a few details not related to the analogy.)