I highly recommend Patricia Evans’ books on Verbally Abusive Relationships, and Controlling People.
Basically, when kids get dolls, they understand that they are projecting their daily issues onto the dolls. They get to dress up the doll and put their worries on the doll and do all these things with the doll. When they do that with people, typically other younger kids, they are then taught that people aren’t to be treated like dolls. People aren’t an extension of our selves. Thus, women tend to be socialized to have better perspective taking skills, and if they need an outlet for this type of behavior, they can use dolls or the Sims etc as a healthy outlet.
Not sure why you deleted this, I was hoping to reply to it. I want to apologise for projecting. I didn’t think of the action figures I grew up with as real dolls until later in life.
I still think they can be a little 1 dimensional, but that’s because of how they’re marketed, socialized, etc
I honestly thought I was being too harsh and you didn’t deserve that for just trying to perspective take and share with me.
It’s important that boys play with girl dolls so they can understand the boundaries between a girl’s body and a doll’s body. It’s okay to dress up a doll, it’s not okay to dress up a girl for instance.
I’m a woman who played with dolls growing up, but I don’t understand what you mean. Why would that have helped?
I highly recommend Patricia Evans’ books on Verbally Abusive Relationships, and Controlling People.
Basically, when kids get dolls, they understand that they are projecting their daily issues onto the dolls. They get to dress up the doll and put their worries on the doll and do all these things with the doll. When they do that with people, typically other younger kids, they are then taught that people aren’t to be treated like dolls. People aren’t an extension of our selves. Thus, women tend to be socialized to have better perspective taking skills, and if they need an outlet for this type of behavior, they can use dolls or the Sims etc as a healthy outlet.
Ooh fascinating, thanks for explaining! I’ll look in to her writing.
Interesting, gonna add to the list of things I should read
It’s not the same but boys of my generation did play with superhero / military dolls, and some of the play scenarios could get quite elaborate.
But I suppose the dolls didn’t represent regular everyday people, so there was less playing with domestic or relatable scenarios.
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Not sure why you deleted this, I was hoping to reply to it. I want to apologise for projecting. I didn’t think of the action figures I grew up with as real dolls until later in life.
I still think they can be a little 1 dimensional, but that’s because of how they’re marketed, socialized, etc
I honestly thought I was being too harsh and you didn’t deserve that for just trying to perspective take and share with me.
It’s important that boys play with girl dolls so they can understand the boundaries between a girl’s body and a doll’s body. It’s okay to dress up a doll, it’s not okay to dress up a girl for instance.